Parenting is usually based on well known methods such as:
* time-outs
* grounding
*using consequences
* discipline involving added work/chores
* contracts/positive rewards
* verbal consequences
We turn to these strategies because we know them, they are popular. We are familiar with the use of consequences and cause-and-effect reasoning to manage behaviour.
Unfortunately, these parenting methods do not recognize the brain differences of people living with an FASD. They fail to consider that some brains have difficulty storing and retrieving information, forming associations, generalizing, thinking abstractly and predicting.
When using strategies to deal with behaviour, it is important to remember:
- Typical strategies and learning-based parenting are not wrong, but they may not match how your child with FASD understands the world.
- Look for patterns of behaviour, anticipate problems and change the situation. This will help prevent the need for punishment and consequences.
- Pay attention to your child’s most effective learning style and build on their strengths associated with this style.
Health Child Manitoba: What Parents and Caregivers Need to Know About FASD p.39