Some children and youth with FASD may have significant memory problems. They may not recall what they are asked to tell or have the language to explain what occurred. Such memory difficulties can cause great difficulties for children who are not sure that really happened, thus, some “lies” are actually ways a child or youth deals with a memory problem.
Avoid asking redundant questions, such as “Are you sure that happened?” This may make a child feel cornered and when cornered they may instinctively answer what they think the adult wants to hear.
Help your child distinguish storytelling from lying by providing them with positive opportunities to tell stories. When you suspect “storytelling”, ask a simple choice question such as “Truth or story?” This can cue the child to stop before continuing.
Another technique is to get your child to draw the sequence of events in the story. This may help both of you to understand what happened.
Avoid asking questions that you already know the answer to!
Remember, it’s about trying differently not harder. If something does not work, try something else!